How about a quickie?

When we have a problem, we all want a fast fix. I mean, who wants to deal with an uncomfortable issue longer than they have to, right?

Most of my clients want a fast fix. Even though I am upfront with them and let them know changes will take time, they still get impatient.  I get it. I’m impatient too! Take for example my current transition into menopause. When I realised I was in my perimenopausal stage of life I began to take appropriate herbs and supplements. But do you know what I did? Once my symptoms were under control I stopped taking everything! I did this is even though I ‘knew’ the transition was going to take a long time (years) and taking something for 2-4 weeks was not enough. At a subconscious level, I was secretly hoping I’d put together that winning combination of natural products that gave me a “ magic pill” solution. I didn’t. My symptoms came back in all their glory.

The magic pill and miracle fix don’t exist. Oh sure, there’s been the odd story or two that has filtered through social media of wondrous cures, corrections or healings, but these are few and far between. 

Most clients come to me with issues that they have had for months, or more commonly, years. If you’ve had a problem for years, how reasonable is it for you to expect it to be resolved in 1, 2 or 3 hours?

Let’s look at it in a different way, if you’ve spent years overeating, do you expect your eating habits to be completely reversed after 1 – 3 hours of appointments with a dietitian? Would you expect your eating style to change if you attended one appointment but choose not to implement any changes suggested to you by the dietitian?

If you haven’t done consistent exercise in years, and you decide to engage a personal trainer to help you, would you expect to be fit after working out 1– 3 hours with them? Is it possible to get fit just by talking to your personal trainer and not exercising on your own between sessions and changing your lifestyle to incorporate exercise?

So, if you’ve neglected to address your stress, emotional upsets, trauma, anxiety, mental health that you’ve had for months or years, is it really reasonable to expect it to be fixed after 1, 2 or 3 appointments? I’m sorry to tell you this, the answer is no. You need to go through an emotional detox process which can take time. You need to make lifestyle changes to appropriately address the issue (because nothing changes if you change nothing). The process is cumulative and takes time to work through.

I’m not sure how many therapists are open and honest about this. I mean as a client, you don’t want to go to someone who is saying “You’re going to be coming to me for a really long time”. But you should also be wary of someone who promises to give you a fast and instantaneous result. The reality usually lies somewhere between these extremes.

I don’t mean to be a Debbie Downer, but I’m very much about saying things as they are.  Being truthful, honest and respectful of your desires – that’s how I roll.