We are becoming increasingly busy, time poor and stressed and we are becoming run down. I am amused to see that it is now ‘en vouge’ for people to post the quote “you can’t pour from an empty cup” on social media. There is truth in this one-liner but I also believe that many of us never ‘fill our own cups’ properly.
If our bodies were smartphone batteries I think we would be recharging ourselves to 30-40% on a daily basis and then trying to live our lives with a body half charged. And as with all batteries, the longer this goes on the less efficient it becomes and it runs out of power (energy) very quickly. And full disclaimer – I’ve been guilty of this too.
People try to recharge themselves with short, one-off, activities but this doesn’t really cut it. Treating yourself to a massage, for example, is nice, but if you step out of that massage room and keep up the same habits as before, the benefits of the massage aren’t going to last long. Look, I’m not saying we shouldn’t do these things for ourselves, we most definitely should, but first and foremost we need to change our habits.
- Do you really need to have notifications on for Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Linked In, Emails etc? Every time you get a notification your attention is taken away from whatever it was you were doing. Dr Richard Chalmers recently posted “Every time you use your phone, you get a dopamine hit in the nucleus accumbens – the same part of the brain that is activated when people gamble or take drugs. So we are literally becoming addicted to our devices, making it harder and harder to put them down”.
- Is it necessary for you to check your social media or emails first thing in the morning? Could you sit quietly with your cup of tea or coffee instead?
- Does your child/children have to do all those extracurricular activities or go to never ending playdates? This requires you to constantly rush from place to place and always be ‘on the go’.
- Are you finding that you are relying on alcohol more and more to ‘wind down’? Have you gone from drinking on weekends to ‘just having one’ when you get home from work every day?
- Do you need to do all the housework when your finances allow you to get a cleaner in to take the pressure off?
- Are you able to just ‘be’ either at home or on the weekends? Or do you feel you have to always be organising the next activity, place to see, thing to do, family and friends to have over? Why is doing nothing so uncomfortable?
- Can you commit to going to bed early for the next two weeks so you get, at least, 8 hours sleep a night? [The amount of clients I see with sleep issues…!!]
If you answered yes to one or more of 1-5 and no to one or more of 6-7 then you have some behavioural habits which are not helping you slow down and take pressure off yourself. These habits are stressful and will take a toll on your health.
Kinesiology is a great tool to help you identify and observe your daily stress habits. It can help and motivate you to make the necessary changes in your life. It’s a supportive process and through muscle testing your body indicates what changes you can make and what support you need.